Living in shared space requires tolerance as each housemate would have different habits.
Recently, a Malaysian girl learn this the hard way after her housemate slapped and scolded her rudely for allegedly waking her up while preparing food in the kitchen at 5 am.
Taking to her Facebook, Vestene starts by saying that she currently lives in a rental room with 3 housemates (a female housemate on the ground floor, outside the kitchen and 2 male housemates on the upper floor).
“On 6 March, Sunday, I had planned on going hiking with friends and I went to the kitchen to prepare food at 5 am”.
“However, in less than 10 minutes of being in the kitchen, my housemate who’s living on the ground floor had walked out of her room and slapped me across the face,” she wrote.
Apparently, the reason her housemate slapped her was because she had been woken up.
“She also shouted at me with foul language and questioned why I did not carry my stove to the living room to cook. At that moment, I was shocked because I thought that was a common area, anyone could use it anytime and it was my first time using the kitchen that early,” she said.
She added that she had double confirmed with her landlord that she could use the facilities at any time of day and there’s no curfew on using the common area.
After Vestene threatened her with a police report, the housemate then told her that “she could get away with it by engaging with a lawyer and suing me because she has anxiety”.
“So, if one of the tenants is hungry in the middle of the night and decide to make supper, does he or she have to get slapped in the face by the tenants living on the ground floor?” she questioned.
She then followed her plan to lodge a police report and the housemate showed up at the police station with unlabeled medication, stating that it was for her anxiety.
“When the sergeant asked if she had a card to validate her mental illness, she said it was just mild anxiety and that there’s no card to verify her mental illness,”
“Regardless of anything at all, one can’t just simply slap someone else and cover it up with ‘mild anxiety’.” Vestene said.
The police officers then demanded the housemate apologise to Vestene and she did, but the housemate added “I am willing to apologise but for you to acknowledge my apology is another story. Yes, I’m wrong but she’s also not considerate at all.”
“To be honest, I don’t acknowledge it at all and it was still one of the most insincere apologies I’ve encountered,” Vestene said.
In the end, Vestene had to walk away from the ‘mediation’ as the housemate refused to back down.
“I can’t believe it’s 2022 and this kind of thing still happens. I understand that I may need to be considerate, which was why I had informed her the night before that I’ll be using the kitchen and not to mention, it was my first time cooking at 5 am and that she chose to stay in the room in front of the kitchen from the very beginning,”
“Currently, I’m still living in the same house because this is the last month of our tenancy in this house. I’m still living in fear, hoping that she won’t hurt me,” she said.
While it is understandable that some are not okay to be wakened up early in the morning, but staying under the same roof requires understanding and tolerance towards each other.
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